I remain committed to my mission of “self-love.” My definition of self-love is: the ability to love oneself unconditionally, to make decisions in her best interest and in the interest of the common good; to set time apart for herself to ground, energize, and stimulate creativity; the ability to give oneself all things needed to thrive.
So much effort goes into self-love and self care. Yet, for others this idea is so naturally fluid that it takes no effort at all. I aim to get the that place where I innately make choices for self love as easily as I can take a deep breath into my body. Unfortunately, for myself, I wait until some crazy catastrophe happens, and then decide that it’s time for self care. What about my preventative habits? What can I do today that will give me the core foundations to make these choices before my health slips or I become too angry to even focus. I need self-care 101 class!
Everyday I hear moms, especially new moms, talk about the difficulty of putting themselves first. Our babies, toddlers, husbands, or jobs seem to take top priority. But, here is what I’ve learned this past month, suffering from a cumulative lack of self-care: I must come first to be a quality human being to my baby, or toddler, or husband, or job. I have neglected this important lesson. GULP. Thank goodness it’s not too late to begin now, where I am, in this moment, to start practicing what I preach.
Some of this is going to seem elementary. You will probably think, DUH. But, these are 5 steps that I can easily implement today.
I will take a shower before 10am every day, blow dry my hair, and put on lip gloss to prepare for my day. (That means I leave Ben in the crib for 30 min while I shower, brush my teeth, etc.)
I will set an intention upon drinking my first sip of tea or coffee.
At bedtime, I will let go of the day by writing in my journal, even if the only thing I write is “This fucking day sucks.”
Meditation with or without stones as I prepare my body for bed.
Dedicate 8 hours to sleep.
So, ladies and gents, do you have a special routine or other healthy habits that you include in your life on a daily basis that instantly zaps you out of negative thinking patterns? What are they? Please share in the comments.
Each new moon brings forth a reminded awareness to stay in my present self. As opposed to sinking into a pattern of particular thought, good or unpleasant. So, I need to be completely honest here. I’ve stayed away from writing for most of the year because I have been dealing with some deep soul work. I have needed to step back partly because I did not have the energy to expose myself and I was afraid to allow myself to be vulnerable. I am overwhelmed and lacking more sleep than I dare to admit. Then something wonderful happened.
I had a meltdown at the acupuncture table where I realized that I have no idea how to truly care for myself in a loving compassionate way. I’m learning that most of my choices are resulted out of fear and I’m not going to allow myself to sink into the shadows any longer. Yes, I have come a long way and I have also taken some stumbles in the process, which is all part of my journey.
So, why share my vulnerability now?
The Autumn Equinox is a time for transitioning and manifesting. Going from Spring/Summer into the Fall/Winter seasons actually takes great exertion from the body and mind. We get a rush of fall and feel the need to rush into a busier schedule when we actually need more rest than usual. Now is the time to clean up your diet so the body can perform at its highest potential. Lets also slow down so that we can actually enjoy ourselves and our loved ones.
The clean crisp air of fall also draws upon new ideals and ways of thinking. I have no problem exposing myself during energy healing sessions or Tarot card readings. But, the disconnection with my voice on paper (screen) and physical voice just doesn’t sit well with me anymore. I manifest the power and control of my voice to allow myself to be fully heard without the fears of judgment or speculation.
Last Saturday I gave a Chakra workshop and at the end one of the students asked me what sort of New Moon rituals should she do for the upcoming new moon. No questions were chakra related. They all assumed I was a witch (yes, she said that word!) because of what I talk about and the energy work that I do. Yes, I’m also a medium and the group witnessed me “tap in” to the spirit world. The quick answer would be yes, I am a witch; however, I do not identify with the word, just as I do not identify with the word psychic. I prefer the words pagan and intuitive empath.
With Pluto heading direct and the energy of the autumn equinox, this new moon gives us purpose to let go of what no longer serves us. I let go of behaviors and ways of thinking that are not serving my greater good to make space for my “witchy” behaviors that involve more meditation, yoga, and writing. I release the negative associations I have with the words “witch” and “psychic.” I release my fears of being judged. I release my feeling of being overwhelmed by my son. I make room for joy, light, and pure happiness. I manifest abundance of love and prosperity.